Do not keep "you are awesome", a table teach you "fancy boast Law", boast boast the child to the point
everyday life, the child will bring us a lot of surprises, we could not help but praise. But praise the children have asked university, research shows, always said, "You are so bad", "You're smart," is not conducive to long-term development of the child. Instead, we can praise children's efforts, the process of doing things, or ideas, and so on.
to our generation, basically all know that teaching children to "positive incentives", but all day long "Kids awesome!" "Child is too much!" So blindly praise, really okay? If one day no one boast, children do not mind there is a gap? Therefore, the child may boast, but to pay attention to ways and means.
How is the expression most appropriate for the child's way of praise it? Take a look at the basis of these expressions, boast boast children to the point on!
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do not boast all boast specific
"awesome children," such praise for parents is really well placed to exploit. In the eyes of the parents, the child's growing every detail is worthy of praise and wonder - the children will laugh, the child will turn over, the children speak ...... is in this constant surprises, the parents have become accustomed to facing children say "awesome!", "Wonderful!" this kind of evaluation, or even a gently "ah" are full of appreciation tone.
parents casually compliment, may be unaware of what kind of negative impact, until one day, and found the child becomes afraid of failure, you can not stand the slightest frustration. Always praise the child in general terms, such as your awesome, let the child know what to do.
Maybe kids just end a meal, happily with their mother said, "boy, you are awesome", it is better to tell him "Thank you for your rice to help her mother, my mother very happy." Targeted specific praise will make it easier for children to understand and know how to do in the future, how hard.
trying not to boast boast smart
"You're so smart!" - another parent usual comment. Parents of children with each step forward if all "smart" to define, can only result is to make the child feel good grades is equated with clever, on the one hand he will become "conceited" instead of "confidence", on the other hand they will face the challenge evasive, do not want to because the results are not consistent with the smart appearance.
The researchers gave the kindergarten children to solve some problems, then, for half of the children said: "The answer eight questions, you are very clever." Semi said to another: "answer eight questions, you are very efforts "
then select them both tasks: one is probably some error, but eventually learn something new task; the other is sure can do very good. The results are 2/3 boast smart kids choose easy to complete; praise the efforts of the 90% of children chose the challenging task.
boast the fact that not boast personality
In this case, "good boy" is a typical "boast personality", parents will inadvertently be hanging in the mouth side. But "good" is a very concept of nothingness, if the child is always detained on such a big hat, but he is a kind of pressure.
If parents always praised the "exaggerated", the children there will be pressure, felt unworthy of such praise. How would they do it? That's when you just finished his praise, he would let you make difficult thing to show "good faith." Children can boast, be sure to pay attention to ways and means.